While looking at their female friends at church, some men are thinking, “She is cute, but I was thinking…” This destructive pattern of thinking is rampant due to pornography and other forms of media.The pressures upon men and women to conform to size, weight, style, and beauty standards for dating is exhausting.“You know,” they’ll muse, “I met [insert spouse’s name] when I least expected it. ” There is certainly a lot of merit in not acting out of desperation and taking seasons off from dating.However, taken to the extreme, this reverse psychology approach (of sticking your head in the sand yet expecting to find a serious relationship) is an oxymoron at best. A young Christian at an purity rally spreads the word. The article in Relevant magazine, entitled “(Almost) Everyone's Doing It,” cited several studies examining the sexual ... Articles like La Fitte's appear to be Relevant's bread and butter. I Kissed offered teenage Christians an enticing alternative to dating, and lent ... In fact, I am so impressed that if you were a girl, I would ask you out on a date. I am thankful for the discussions that you initiate.

The Bible addresses the hardships that come with marrying a nonbeliever, so that’s rather clear.

The ability to face rejection without it destroying your concept of self is wrapped up with maturity and personal autonomy. I can’t play the guitar, or whatever that instrument is, and I certainly can’t sing. Guys are still looking for the girl in the picture.

So, I say this to encourage you, and to help you excel in your already great work. Images cause people to pick up a magazine, buy a car, or in this case – read an on-line article.

Wheaton grad Jared La Fitte for hipster Christian magazine Relevant argues ...

When it comes to dating, “stop looking” is not bad advice, but very good advice.